This week's article: So, you want to go from friend to lover? You want to date the woman who up until now has been a "friend" to you but you don't know how to go about doing it? Here are some flirtatious moves that will help take you from the "friend" category to that of "lover." These
include...
(1.) Spend some time looking into her eyes. Hold eye contact with her for a bit longer than you normally would. In other words, when you are having a conversation with her, be sure to have eye contact for at least part of the time. You should even go so far as to hold eye contact for just a fraction too long so that you can have a brief, more intimate moment between the two of you.
(2.) You should make decisions quickly and easily. This should be easy to do because you are always moving toward the same outcome: romantic feelings, and seduction. This is important because you want to show her that you are a decisive man who she will not have to take care of.
(3.) Wink at her from across the room, or during a conversation that you are having with her. Wink at her when she says something funny, or when someone else does something silly. By winking at her you are sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as though the two of you are in on a private joke that nobody else is in on
(4.) Pay your friend a compliment about her body, but make sure that you do so in such a way that she does not feel like a piece of meat. How do you do this? You do it by making eye contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing your eyes down and then back up over her body, and looking in her eyes once again. It is important that this is done quickly, and that you do not feel any shame in doing so. You also need to make sure that you don't do this too often. Twice is enough during a dinner date.
(5.) Your body is a powerful tool if you use it properly. Women want to be with men who know how to sit, stand and move like they are both fascinated and fascinating. This is because, moving in such a manner, will make you perky and more energetic.
(6.) Work on complimenting her as a potential lover, not as a tepid friend. What is the difference? If you are only friends, you would say something like, "you have a very nice briefcase." This compliment does not show any romantic interest. In other words, this is the type of compliment that one woman might give to another. Thus, you may as well be another woman, striking up a casual friendship.
What you want to do is make it clear that you are a man, noticing her as a woman. You are a man who is committed to being seen as a potential lover. Therefore, your compliments should be on a more personal level, such as, "Your smile is so beautiful, it lights up the room."
While this may be uncomfortable for you to do at first, you need to continue on taking the risk to be passionate with her. While you are taking the risk of rejection in doing this, you won't receive the victories if you don't risk the rejection.
(7.) When talking to her, whisper to her as you lean into her space. While you don't need to get right up to her ear, you can lean into her space, and lower the volume of your voice, to share something with her.
These tips will help you to gradually go from friend to lover. This will help you into a dating relationship with a woman who up until now has been a "friend" to you. Have fun and enjoy the casual flirting that will gradually take you from friendship to lover.
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