Written by Ashley

Monday, 08 August 2005

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This week's article: Many men are left wondering how they can know if a woman is making advances to sleep with them. After all, many women do crazy little things that would lead you to believe that they want to have sex with you. For instance, some women will invite you to their house after a date. This would make you think that they want to have sex with you, but is that what it really means? Not necessarily!...

Dating & Relationship AdviceSo, you have known this woman for a long time and you find yourself being confused by the mixed signals that she's giving you . . . Sure, you could spend endless hours trying to figure out what she is trying to say but you may never actually figure it out. So, you would like to have a better indication as to whether or not she wants to sleep with you . . . 

There are usually two ways in which a man will usually approach this situation.

First of all, there are those men who are aggressive and go forward, usually way too fast, to get sex from the woman. You will usually get rejected for your poor approach here. While the woman may actually want sex, the problem is that she wants you to take the opportunity when she presents it. Most women are not going to walk across the room and tell you to fuck them though. She wants you to warm up to her, even if her mind is made up that she wants to have sex with you. 

You need to understand that just because a woman invites you into her apartment does not mean that she is saying that she will have sex with you. Sure, she is giving you the opportunity, but it is her right to revoke the privilege at any time. You have to know how to take advantage of the opportunity. 

The second approach in which you may approach the situation is by going through the progressive steps of seduction. When you are invited into her apartment, take the time to go through the steps of getting the ice breaker over to sitting on the couch listening to some music which in turn gives you the opportunity to start caressing and kissing her. From there you progress towards the end goal which is sexual gratification. As you are moving along to this goal, you will get the true indications as to whether or not she really wants to sleep with you.

Simply stated, most women who want to have sex with you will make it very easy for it to happen. On the other hand, if she doesn't want to have sex with you, she will make it very difficult for it to happen. If she is playing games with you, the best way to halt the games is to start playing games with them. This will force them to stop playing games or leave you alone. The best game to play is to honestly tell them exactly what you want. In other words, the next time that she gives you a sexual signal ask her flat out, "Are you interested in having sex with me?" This cuts through the games fast, and if she says "yes" then go ahead and enjoy yourselves. On the other hand, if she says "no," then you can flat out ask her "Why are you giving me mixed signals?" Remember, you should keep both your attitude and your tone unemotional as though you were honestly asking her for information.

It is also important to understand that when it comes to meeting and seducing women, most meant will do one of two things.

(1.) Spend some time building and investing in your own understanding so that you will not have to suffer for the rest of your life. This does not mean that you are going to learn some special "actions" or words. It means that you have taken time to learn from your mistakes, and to grow because of them.

(2.) Realize that just because you are not successful with women does not automatically mean that it is the woman's fault. Do not fall prey to using such statements as: "I just can't understand WOMEN." "WOMEN are so different." "I just don't get why WOMEN act so strangely." When in reality, women are acting just fine. Women always misbehave in ways in which men can easily analyze and understand if men were willing to take the time to learn about women's motivations, or what actually is going on beneath the surface. 

So now you will never be left wondering whether or not a woman wants to sleep with you. Now you will no longer think that just because a woman invites you into her apartment that she wants to sleep with you. Now you will be prepared, and understanding, for when a woman does these "crazy" little acts. Now you will know how you are meant to react!

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+1 # playing hard to get..kerry 2012-08-22 17:37
i say to my ex, all different things! how we will enjoy it i try and play hard to get by saying ah the ext time i'll see you is on friday (we have the friends) so hang out alot... but normally would meet up in the week :s so he would think its weird and yeah so thats how i play to him.

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