I'll admit it:
I'm in stealth mode, too. 
My wife hates cigars, cigarettes, or anything that burns for that matter. I met her back in October of 2000 and she's expressed her disgust for smoking since then. She made me promise to quit smoking cigarettes shortly after I met her, and I have been covert with my cigarettes up until I finally decided to call it quits a little over a week ago.
Cigars - she doesn't mind, as long as I limit it to vacations and "special gatherings," whatever that's supposed to mean. Other than that, I keep it all on the down low. I have one 50-count humidor in our living room and I do my best to not pull anything out of that box unless we're going on vacation or heading out to some "special gathering." The rest of my stash, I keep in the office. I'd rather keep it there anyway because of the temperature-controlled environment, the size of my furniture, and the fact that almost everyone I enjoy smoking with happens to be co-workers.
So, it's okay to be stealth if you have to. I take a shower before I leave the office and change into more casual clothes before I head home. My covert operation has been in effect for many years. Sometimes, you just have to do what you have to do to be happy.
Good luck...and stay slick like a ninja. Hahaha.