[Breaddrink]

I dunno...I'm confused here.

I'm new to Cigars and just feeling my way around.
Picking up my first humidor on Sunday...

I read online and in a couple of books that the best way to light up a cigar is to toast it a little bit (marshmallow style) gently over a flame until the very tip gets a chance to dry out and char slightly, and then gently coax it to a full glow with one or two very small puffs over the flame.

Now I just bought a "Cigar lighter" and this thing could weld metal together...
It seems the torch style of lighter is very popular for cigar smokers, yet this makes the whole gentle toasting and lighting prodedure more like a rapid burn up and ignition.

Any input on which is best?
Before I knew better I did used to just light them up as though they were huge cigarettes, and did find that to detract from the flavour enormously, adding harshness and a bitter over peppery taste too early on in the smoke.

This has possibly made me a bit paranoid about lighting them correctly.

My torch lighter doesn't seem to add any harshness, but it does light them very very quickly.

What's best?

Breaddrink.