"Neighbor" etiquette?

[taltos]

We have good separation between yards but I do try to be considerate if the neighbors' grandchildren are out. However when the neighbor on the other side's gangsta (c)rap crosses my property line into my ears, I don't really care if my cigars annoy him.

[shilala]

Originally Posted by taltos

We have good separation between yards but I do try to be considerate if the neighbors' grandchildren are out. However when the neighbor on the other side's gangsta (c)rap crosses my property line into my ears, I don't really care if my cigars annoy him.

Blow him up, man.

[massphatness]

Originally Posted by shilala

I'm used to living on a "farm", and chickens like cigars. At least I never had any complaints.

I'm pretty sure they like your choices, Scott:

[Mr. Doug]

Wow...I posted this before I went to bed and didn't expect 3 pages by the morning!

I'm generally pretty considerate. One of my neighbor's 17yr-old daughter has her bedroom window about 20' from my 'smoking area' so if her window is open, I usually gauge the wind direction before lighting up. If they are having a dinner party outside, I usually don't light one either.

Other than that, their dog uses the air to send "barks" into my yard, I guess I'm just returning the favor.

[Blueface]

Originally Posted by Mr. Doug

Wow...I posted this before I went to bed and didn't expect 3 pages by the morning!

I'm generally pretty considerate. One of my neighbor's 17yr-old daughter has her bedroom window about 20' from my 'smoking area' so if her window is open, I usually gauge the wind direction before lighting up. If they are having a dinner party outside, I usually don't light one either.

Other than that, their dog uses the air to send "barks" into my yard, I guess I'm just returning the favor.

Got me thinking as I returned to this thread.
Where does one draw the line?
Some great suggestions of trying to work it out and asking if it bothers them but no all neighbors are as courteous in return.
Certainly believe you should try to have harmony but a neighbor's dislikes should not interfere with your lifestyle.
If the smoke bothers them and they have the window open, they too have a choice to get around that. They can close the window and when you are done with your cigar, they can open it again.
Great thing about cigars, most folks generally don't chain smoke then like cigarettes. So once you are done, you are pretty much done.

Now imagine a different scenario such as mine.
My neighbor behind me cooks the weirdest smelling crap you can ever imagine.
Any different than cigar smoke?
Should he be worried about what I think of it?
Don't think so. He is outdoors. He is on his property. He is not doing anything illegal.
Sometimes, being a good neighbor is more than conceding/giving in to what your neighbor wants you to do. Sometimes it is about being tolerant and both sides dealing with it by respecting each other's rights, particular when on one's personal property and not doing anything illegal.

[Old Sailor]

I actually have great neighbours, never complain about anything yet.

[Deuce Da Masta]

Hell all the smoke Nazi's already prevent us from smoking in public places, ill be damned if ill refrain from smoking outside of my own home!

Side not, if they were enjoying dinner, i might wait until after they finish as well, but after that, its on!

[hardcz]

I agree with much that was said here about common courtesy... I burn a lot of wood during the year in my firepit, and my neighbers I didn't know were having a party, and about an hour before they asked if I wouldn't mind putting it out since they had a bunch of kids and people over in their back yard, no problem, put it out, they came over after with a bucket full of beer as thanks. People generally want to be nice to each other, so I try to think of it that way instead of fu*k em all sort of attitudes to people.

[Don Fernando]

Originally Posted by Mr. Doug

One of my neighbor's 17yr-old daughter has her bedroom window about 20' from my 'smoking area' so if her window is open, I usually gauge the wind direction before lighting up.

so you're looking thru the bedroom window of a 17 year old girl? Nasty Doug

[Blueface]

Originally Posted by Don Fernando

so you're looking thru the bedroom window of a 17 year old girl? Nasty Doug

OK,
We both thought it.
You said it.

[hardcz]

Originally Posted by Blueface

OK,
We both thought it.
You said it.

I wasn't going to say it.

[jkorp]

Originally Posted by Old Sailor

My house...my yard...too bad. I tell anyone that complains if they pay my mortgage and taxes fine, otherwise TS.

The hard a$$ in me wants to say that, and usually thinks that.

During the week, I only smoke at night, usually after 8 PM. On the weekends, usually some during the day and night. If you see me brining my laptop to the porch get ready to shut your windows. Quite often I hear the swish of the window closing, sometimes with some irritation. Some of the neighbors like the smell and do nothing. At this point, I think most of them are immune to the smell and are use to it.

Originally Posted by dantzig

Now if you live in a townhouse, condo, apartment, or multiplex then things get more complicated. I live in a townhouse and my back deck is about 12 ft. away from my closest neighbor's.

I live in a real brick rowhouse, what they call townhouses now but are only brick vineered, and I am concerned about some of the neighbors.

It's like this, the ones that actually give a crap about us, and the neighborhood, and pull some weight to make it a nice place, I asked them to let me know if it bothers them. They said if it ever bothered them they'd shut the window, and they do regularly. Now the neighbors that contribute nothing, don't even say high, or lift a finger, I don't worry about them. That maybe be a$$holish, but thats the way we roll in our neighborhood. Everyone contributes, whoever is the first to get their mower out cuts the the yard next to them. Whoever gets the shovel out first, gets rid of his neighbors snow. When you see each other you say high. If you can't meet these minimum standards you pretty much are disregarded as unneighborly, cigar smoke or not.

Originally Posted by Blueface

Sometimes, being a good neighbor is more than conceding/giving in to what your neighbor wants you to do. Sometimes it is about being tolerant and both sides dealing with it by respecting each other's rights, particular when on one's personal property and not doing anything illegal.

Very good points. When the lady on one side of me use to smoke cigarettes, she never asked about all the smoke blowing in my window. When the new couple on the right were remodeling the upstairs, they never asked if we liked the sound of a drill and grinder vibrating through the walls at 11 PM. But did we complain ... no!

You have good peoples and not good peoples, the good ones know to live and let live.

[compuag]

My downwind neighbor smokes more than I do. He prefers it when I'm outside blowing smoke signals his way.

[FriendlyFire]

Now this is just my 2 cents of my bird brain,
I personely think it depends what kind of people they are, if its the kind of people you want as real neighbors, then I'd do them and your self a solid and not upset them. After all me know some people can't stand smoke.
If its the kind you want to stay back 200 feet from then I'd look at the options. You don't want any one upseting you or get in to a real fight.

[MarbleApe]

I bend over backwards to appease people all day long. My home is just about the last isle of sanity in an ocean of finger pointers, back stabbers, and told-you-sos. If I didn't feel comfortable with something as simple as relaxing with a cigar without offending someone, I'd really think of moving someplace this wouldn't be an issue.

I understand the points made about not being a jerk for jerk's sake, but your relaxation at home is every bit as important as anyone elses.