Sad day.

[zitro_joe]

Originally Posted by Vagrant

Ahh, another update to you guys. She wants me to get an apartment by the end of February. She thinks that "some time where we aren't always around each other could help us get closer". I'm of the belief that it'll bring us further apart, and most importantly, distance me from my daughter. Guess I won't get much choice in the matter, though. I just don't know how things'll work out with this one, guys. I just have a feeling I'll be fighting for visitation rights soon, and it's really getting to me.

I'll take your tip on the pipe man, I'll try some stuff out. Maybe it'll get her off this mind set.

Bro! You do have a choice. This is your family, fight for it. I am on the outside looking in so obviously I don't know the facts but don't be passive. It might be misinterpreted.

Zitro

[Brule]

I don't really know you but sounds like you're getting both barrels at the moment... really hope things get better soon. I'm not in the best financial shape at the moment, but if you happen to visit York there's a stogie with your name on it.

[zitro_joe]

How you doing, Bro?

[gboyet93]

Originally Posted by Vagrant

Ahh, another update to you guys. She wants me to get an apartment by the end of February. She thinks that "some time where we aren't always around each other could help us get closer". I'm of the belief that it'll bring us further apart, and most importantly, distance me from my daughter. Guess I won't get much choice in the matter, though. I just don't know how things'll work out with this one, guys. I just have a feeling I'll be fighting for visitation rights soon, and it's really getting to me.

I'll take your tip on the pipe man, I'll try some stuff out. Maybe it'll get her off this mind set.

Lord have mercy! I really don't have anything inspiring to say that would make you feel better. I am not telling you to give up, but sometimes it is better to cut your loses and move on. It seems that you are doing everything you can to keep your family together, but without the help of your wife you can only do so much.

[Vagrant]

Hey guys,

Not much has changed, just been spending as much time as I can with my little girl before I get the new place. Don't really know how to take things right now, I mean, just so everyone knows the depth of my situation fully ( I may have mentioned this before?) my daughter's not mine, biologically, me and her mother met about 3 weeks into her pregnancy, and I didn't find out she was pregnant until around the second month, and I didn't find out she wasn't mine until around the five month area. But, I've been there since before well, long before day one. She's mine in every other right, except for the one that the government counts. Which, if I know my woman like I think I know her, means that if we do split, I won't get to see her unless I break laws to do so. Little Payton has my last name, though, so if it comes down to it, I'll fight tooth and nail to get to see her in a legal manner. I don't know if anyone here is versed in the law at all, but does anyone know if I'd have a chance in hell? And as for an update on the wife, she's reached a point where she's telling me to leave her alone, or that she needs some alone time, etc. anytime I try to talk to her, or be affectionate. I'm also falling kinda past the point of sad, and more to the offended/pissed/helpless portion of the cycle. It turns out my youngest cousin is in need of a place, and will be sharing the apartment, and the bills, with me.

Feels kinda like being back in high school, but with much higher stakes. Anyone around here been through a divorce with a kid involved in the mix? It'd be great to hear some stories on how they coped with it..

[cowboy kilroy]

My heart goes out to you man. The best advise I can give you is to to find a nice quite spot and pray for help and guidance .Then listen to your heart and let the Lord carry your load and lead you. I am praying for you now. Keep positive thoughts.

[iride]

Hey Vagrant...when it rains it pours huh? Only advice from here is...be patient and keep your cool...a woman's attorney LOVES it when you say or do something just a hair out line. In the mean time get employed quick, that's another thing that will be held against you.

Good luck, keep your head up.

[Maduro_Scotty]

Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Be sure to check out state and city employment opportunities. The pay is a bit higher and the insurance can't be beat.

PM sent.

[gboyet93]

Originally Posted by iride

Hey Vagrant...when it rains it pours huh? Only advice from here is...be patient and keep your cool...a woman's attorney LOVES it when you say or do something just a hair out line. In the mean time get employed quick, that's another thing that will be held against you.

Good luck, keep your head up.

I can not agree with this more! Don't do something stupid, that you will regret later.

[zitro_joe]

Originally Posted by Vagrant

Hey guys,

Not much has changed, just been spending as much time as I can with my little girl before I get the new place. Don't really know how to take things right now, I mean, just so everyone knows the depth of my situation fully ( I may have mentioned this before?) my daughter's not mine, biologically, me and her mother met about 3 weeks into her pregnancy, and I didn't find out she was pregnant until around the second month, and I didn't find out she wasn't mine until around the five month area. But, I've been there since before well, long before day one. She's mine in every other right, except for the one that the government counts. Which, if I know my woman like I think I know her, means that if we do split, I won't get to see her unless I break laws to do so. Little Payton has my last name, though, so if it comes down to it, I'll fight tooth and nail to get to see her in a legal manner. I don't know if anyone here is versed in the law at all, but does anyone know if I'd have a chance in hell? And as for an update on the wife, she's reached a point where she's telling me to leave her alone, or that she needs some alone time, etc. anytime I try to talk to her, or be affectionate. I'm also falling kinda past the point of sad, and more to the offended/pissed/helpless portion of the cycle. It turns out my youngest cousin is in need of a place, and will be sharing the apartment, and the bills, with me.

Feels kinda like being back in high school, but with much higher stakes. Anyone around here been through a divorce with a kid involved in the mix? It'd be great to hear some stories on how they coped with it..

Bro, I sent something to ya. I hope you enjoy.

[Vagrant]

Little update on the ongoing job situation for those who I haven't been able to reply to their PM's lately-

Got an interview on Feb 19th for the USPS job. Fingers crossed

[Cigary]

Originally Posted by Vagrant

Little update on the ongoing job situation for those who I haven't been able to reply to their PM's lately-

Got an interview on Feb 19th for the USPS job. Fingers crossed

I have also been watching this from a distance,,,not knowing all of the particulars but can see that you are doing what needs to be done as far as looking for a job, accepting responsibility. There are no magic words to tell you what needs to be done,,,you are already doing it. Know that there are those who are sending out our thoughts to you and hope you find something soon.

[CptGutz]

Yeah man, good luck with the job search... if you start to run out on your cache.. we're all BOTL I for one will send you some out of my humidor to keep you going, no need for you to go without if you're trying to do right by your kid.

[DBCcigar]

Good luck on the search.

[Andy]

good luck with the job search