Dating and cigars

[ky toker]

Didn't you just start that "I'm back/Got bombed by the boyfriend!" thread?

[uncballzer]

Being around med students, I do get that "you're going to be a doctor and you smoke?" attitude a lot! But of course, a lot of them I could just say "f off" and i'd be fine with it. Not much of a dating guy, but of course I'm still single then. But those few that I have been around didn't mind so much, or they did the occassional cigarette, so they couldn't really talk.

Here's a solution, all of us on here likes cigars/pipes, why don't we just set up our own dating site on CS? Although, if things don't work out, it'll be funny just to see who takes what cigars from the breakup/divorce instead of hearing about how he/she got the house/car.

[a2vr6]

Originally Posted by Lorglath

With my current relationship I let her know right off the bat because I foolishly let an EX banish me from smoking cigars.... well to not go too into it, I didn't like that she was all up in my grill, hehe sorry i had to use it, for smoking occasionally, which was 1 every 2 months back then.

I let my GF know if she gives me an ultimatum between her and cigars I would choose the Gars! and that isn't because they are more important to me, I don't want to be controlled and told to quit a hobby I really enjoy because of something they want. Furthermore, I told her upfront, if she had a problem with it she should have said something then.

All and all, I suggest telling them within your first conversation or two if you don't want to put it in your profile.

Some good stuff there Lorglath, no one should be be told what to do or be forced to stop doing things they enjoy by there partner. On another note though, I am don't really enjoy kissing a girl if there breath stinks of cigarettes or even (GASP) cigar smoke. That's why you sometimes have to put yourself in there shoes, I find it disgusting if someones breath stinks of any funk . I always brush my teeth and use a good minty mouthwash (something with tea tree in it like this DR. KENS!) after smoking. Just put yourself in the other persons shoes. Just common sense .... my

[BeagleOne]

My wife knew that I smoked cigars when we started dating. She even bought me my first humidor. Even now, she doesn't like it, but she is okay with my smoking (not at the house), and joins me at herfs and the smoke shops, as Croatan can testify to. She even made chocolate fudge for the guys there as a gift for Christmas. Regardless, we have established rules for this activity that I respect.

I would mention it, but also let them know that you are who you are, either they can accept it or leave. I wouldn't want to be with someone who is going to constantly try and change what is fundamentally my persona.

[butterbeezy]

Don't beat around the bush... it'll just end up being a set-up for disappointment.

My wife hates that i smoke. She always says i stink.

[BlueWaterStogie]

Definite impact upon my social life insofar as dating goes, which is on the one hand unfortunate, and on the other hand means that the cigars are a relatively inexpensive relationship filter *grin*.

I get just as many (or more) complimentary comments about cigar aroma as I do disparaging looks/comments.

California is a strange place - no news, that, I realize. On the one hand, you can always tell the bars along a street by the huddled masses grabbing a smoke outside the front door. Then again, the weather is such that even when it is cold, it isn't really cold, so we *can* stand outside the door.

The challenge I face is that I really do not like cigarette smoke, which eliminates cigarette smokers from the dating pool. Yeah, I know.

I very much like the, "I enjoy a good cigar" line from one of the posts above. That addresses the subject, and just leaves the frequency as a variable to be sorted out in the context of the present relationship. I can almost kinda sorta pretty much live with that. After all - if my cigar consumption drops by 50%, it's just that much more aging the remaining stock will enjoy .

BWS

[bobarian]

Originally Posted by butterbeezy

She always says i stink.

I didnt think that had anything to do with cigars.

[butterbeezy]

Originally Posted by bobarian

I didnt think that had anything to do with cigars.

(I knew this was coming) Thanks Bob... I know my aroma entices you

[ATLHARP]

Originally Posted by publicspeakingnerd

I have a question for the single gorillas out there:

Does the fact that you smoke cigars affect your dating life? Have you had trouble getting a date because of the fact that you smoke cigars? For those of you that do online dating, do you mention it on your profile?

I mention it on my dating profile (on okcupid.com-I have a BF, but it's an open relationship) because I have had issues with people that refuse to date smokers, but are dumbfounded with cigar smokers. After all,I don't smoke everyday and usually smoke alone. I have gotten the usual (gee, what do you stuff that with/trite monica lewinsky jokes) responses, with an occasional compliment from most. But it's almost like you have to come with a warning label:

I'm Charming as can be, but stay away from me...im a (*gasp*) cigar smoker!

after all, people have crazy standards when it comes to dating. Do you?
What are you experiences with the non-smoking population of the dating world?

Kind of,

I am currently dating right now and my current girl doesn't mind it all. One night she told me to light one up! Go figure! Anyway, it does impact my dating because alot of women cannot deal with cigars period. There was an old adage that we had at LJ's when it came to cigar smoke. We called it "Bitch Repellent". I think cigars weed out the cool chicks from the useless crab-asses that tend to prowl the net. So yes it is factor and thankfully so!

ATL

[doctorcue]

Originally Posted by butterbeezy

(I knew this was coming) Thanks Bob... I know my aroma entices you

Wow... didn't know how you two felt for each other. J/k

Hey PSN, like others have said, just be upfront about it. People either deal with it or make an issue of it. Avoid the latter.

[c2000]

My wife does not like that I smoke cigars,,but my girlfriend doesn't have any problem with it,,everyone is different.


Jerry in Minnesota.

[simon81]

when i met my current gf (where parcticley married) she knew i smoked and i didnt try to hide it thinking she was alright with it how wrong was i she was too alright with it i got her her own little humi but she still preferes the ones outer mine see how its backfired shes stealing my cigars

[BillyCigars]

My last 2 GFs, (one was Puerto Rican & the other was Cuban & Mexican) loved the fact I smoked cigars. I met both of them in NYC and they both had Dads that smoked cigars. For them, it was an accepted cultural extension. Even though I'm Irish

[publicspeakingnerd]

Originally Posted by Ratters

My last gf loved the fact that I smoked cigars.

Now that I'm single again I don't hide the fact at all. If someone doesn't want to date a cigar smoker that's fine by me. It's a pretty big part of my life so they better be OK with it. But I'm also 41, balding, a bit of a paunch, a gun nut and ride sportbikes, so they already got some hurdles to overcome. But so far I've been able to find women for which all are pluses. Haven't tried a dating site yet, haven't needed to, but if I ever do I'll mention all of my hobbies, as they are all things the person needs to be OK with to be with me. Why lie and spring it on them later.

I like the way you think! I agree: why lie? Just tell it like it is!

[publicspeakingnerd]

Originally Posted by Cotton

With the USofA being so anti-smoking now, I see where it could be a problem. Add to that the fact you are a female that smokes cigars. I don't see anything wrong with that, but I bet much of the non-smoking public would think that is just wrong. Smoking cigars has been primarily a male thing and that's all that the majority know. So I see how it can be very difficult for you in your quest for a date.

I find it rather amusing really. I love the look on people's faces when I tell them I smoke. I mean, I don't "appear" to be a cigar smoker (after all, I am a female that wears glasses...I look innocent ), or look like someone who would have 4 tattoos. Blowing people's mindsets out the water is something I frequently enjoy.

Yes, it can be a real pain at times with the smoking-phobic world (and those who are absorbed with assigning gender roles). But to me, there are plenty of "fish" out there. If they don't like the fact that I am person that smokes cigars that happens to be a woman, screw em!