A completely ugly situation

[stlcards]

Don't do anything irrational. Just fight the good fight and don't worry, everyone gets what they deserve in the end.

Or you could just give both of the old bags the people's elbow and end it now.

[Wang Lung-cl]

I've been through this. And I learned a lesson that has provided peace.

The only thing I am entitled to are things I have produced. I'm not entitled to inheritance or gifts.

This is a lesson I have shared in crystal clear terms with my Children.

[forgop-cl]

Originally Posted by Wang Lung

I've been through this. And I learned a lesson that has provided peace.

The only thing I am entitled to are things I have produced. I'm not entitled to inheritance or gifts.

This is a lesson I have shared in crystal clear terms with my Children.

I agree with you 100% if none of this had happend 10+ years ago from what my uncle started. My dad and I never forgave him for screwing over my gma at the time for all the hell he caused. He and his wife reaped the benefits of his share of the inheritance for 10+ years, while my dad went to his grave without a dime from her. My dad was the one who was there for her and did everything for her up to the point that he no longer could due to what cancer did to him while my uncle practically disowned her.

Now, my aunt creeps back into the picture trying to get the rest of it and has been doing some stuff behind our backs that would have her arrested if we had physical proof. She isn't getting it without a fight from me.

[patefengreen]

Originally Posted by Wang Lung

I've been through this. And I learned a lesson that has provided peace.

The only thing I am entitled to are things I have produced. I'm not entitled to inheritance or gifts.

This is a lesson I have shared in crystal clear terms with my Children.

Amen brother! My dad, who was widowed 16 years ago, finally remarried in 2004 and my brother and I don't have a clue how things will turn out in the end (whenever that may be). Everyone thinks they are entitled to what their parents, grandparents, etc. worked hard to obtain; but I disagree. It would be nice and may seem like the logical and right thing to do; but I don't feel that it's set in stone and that you're absolutely due anything. There are no guarantees in life and if my dad wants to give everything away to a shelter for homeless cats, then that's his perogative. That would suck, but I've seen family members fight over the dumbest little momentos and trinkets which have ruined their relationships forever. I refuse to lead a bitter life because of something that I have no control over. I control my own destiny ... no matter how meager it may be.

I wish you the best of luck, Duane. But your situation looks like it's going to get even uglier with a lot of hurt feelings and no one ends up happy when it's all said and done. I'm sorry fate has put you in such a position. Do what you need to do to expose your aunt for what she is. But I do agree with what Dustin said, "everyone gets what they deserve in the end." So even if your aunt gets the material possessions now, she'll have a not so nice surprise waiting for her at the end of her rainbow.

[Wang Lung-cl]

Rhonda, you are a kindred spirit.

I, like most, have Family, friends, and acquaintances telling me they are going to do all kinds of things for me. And while I appreciate the sentiment, it doesn't mean a thing.

Too many things can happen between the lip and the cup.

[Slow Triathlete]

If I were you, and the land that you own is connected to the land that your aunt owns, then I would sell your land to a development firm that specialized in Landfills. Let her have that next door to her for what she's doing to you and your brother.

My wife's family is going through a similar situation with her mom's grandma passing. Same deal, house and farm up in Canada.