(minus the stupid part)
Most of the bum rap that 9mms get is based on their performance in the hands of our military, and they use FMJ ball ammo. A 9mm with good hollowpoints is just fine as a defensive weapon, IMO.
I also agree on the .357 magnum revolver. I own two of them. You can't beat the versatility. Load it with light .38 specials and its a great plinker/target/small game gun. With hot 125 grain hollowpoints, its a superior defensive round. With 158 grain or 180 grain bullets, it's adequate for hunting deer-sized game.