I watch old movies - it's always stick matches - the big ones - like the old Diamond brand, you can still get them at grocery stores.
as for flying with lighters -
PER CURRENT TSA:
Common Lighters - Lighters without fuel are permitted in checked baggage. Lighters with fuel are prohibited in checked baggage, unless they adhere to the Department of Transportation (DOT) exemption, which allows up to two fueled lighters if properly enclosed in a DOT approved case. If you are uncertain as to whether your lighter is prohibited, please leave it at home. OK X
Torch Lighters - Torch lighters create a thin, needle-like flame that is hotter (reaching 2,500 degrees Fahrenheit) and more intense than those from common lighters. Torch lighters are often used for pipes and cigars, and maintain a consistent stream of air-propelled fire regardless of the angle at which it is held. Torch lighters continue to be banned. X X
Strike-anywhere Matches - One book of safety (non-strike anywhere) matches are permitted as carry-on items, but all matches are prohibited in checked baggage.
In other words - you cannot carry on any lighter - but you CAN carry on a book of matches to light your shoes or underwear on fire!
THESE CANNOT BE CARRIED ON OR IN CHECKED BAGGAGE:
Blasting Caps X X
Dynamite X X
Fireworks X X
Flares (in any form) X X
Hand Grenades X X
Plastic Explosives X X
Realistic Replicas of Explosives X X
REPEAT - ABSOLUTELY NO HAND GRENADES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!P