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TikiHut27 · 05-12-2008, 03:46 AM

I used to smoke every so often with my buddies.

During my Iraq deployment in 2004 it ramped up to six sticks a day.

When I got home I slowed down to one or two a day. My wife, who is fairly cool and will every so often light up a puro herself, was not happy but never said a thing.

When I was activated for Afghanistan, I felt super guilty for leaving her again, so, in an effort to make her feel better about the situation, I casually mentioned I was only going to smoke through the end of the deployment.

While it might be a good idea to move to weekends only, I enjoy a nice smoke WAY to much to want to stop.

So what do I do now?

JordanWexler · 05-12-2008, 07:50 AM

You dug yourself deep.
I suppose either you hold to your promise - or you remind her its something that you really, truly enjoy.

25box · 05-12-2008, 07:54 AM

wow 6 sticks! I thought I was doing good with 1 a night while I was deployed to Balad. What she doesn't know won't hurt her - But honesty is the best policy.

Volt · 05-12-2008, 10:22 AM

Well, in hind sight, not so good a statement. But, in my little world, it's amazing what some of that shiney, glittery stuff you wear on fingers and around the neck will let me do

icehog3 · 05-12-2008, 11:02 AM

If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.

ResIpsa · 05-12-2008, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by icehog3

If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.

I'd discuss it with her or keep my word, because if she finds out you didn't, not good.

bruceolee · 05-12-2008, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by icehog3

If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.

I've been on several antidepressants over the past couple of years and right now nothing works better than a nice cigar at the end of the day. Just let her know how much it really does help you. it's best to be honest in this situation.

CigarmanTim · 05-12-2008, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by TikiHut27

So what do I do now?

Claim temporary insanity

Don Fernando · 05-12-2008, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by TikiHut27

So what do I do now?

Deny that you ever told her you would quit.

vstrommark · 05-12-2008, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by icehog3

If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.

could not have said it better. Relationships require solid communications

TikiHut27 · 05-12-2008, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by icehog3

If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.

You are definitely on the right track. Cigar smoking is not something you can hide from your wife, either. (Plus I don't work like that.) But I made a promise, right? Isn't that kind of backing out?

Bobb · 05-12-2008, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by icehog3

If you let her know how much relaxation a daily cigar brings you, hopefully she will realize that life's too short not to do the things that make you happy. Be supportive of all she does, and it will come back to you.

Honesty may not always the best policy...but when it comes to the bride, it's the only policy. Talk it over with her and hope she understands how much you enjoy cigars and maybe you can work something out.

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Originally Posted by ResIpsa

I'd discuss it with her or keep my word, because if she finds out you didn't, not good.

also

Good luck and thank you for your service.

TikiHut27 · 05-12-2008, 03:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Bobb

Honesty may not always the best policy...but when it comes to the bride, it's the only policy. Talk it over with her and hope she understands how much you enjoy cigars and maybe you can work something out.

also

Good luck and thank you for your service.

Thanks, appreciate it.

I still think maybe weekends only is a good option.

Also I like the shiny stuff suggestion from volt!