Prayers for you and your family bro! Don't overthink it, and we are all here if you need to vent.
I second what others have said about chiropractors. From the time I was 19 to 24 I ruptured my two lowest disk in my back THREE times! Docs all siad surgery. I remembered my dad has back surgery when I was a kid, and I remembered his recovery was laying flat on this back for 6 months and not getting out of bed for almost a year. I turned down the surgery, found another doctor, and started doing chiropractor visits twice a week. Now I am all healed up, and move around just fine. I still go to the gym 5 days a week and lit weights, and run like any other human would. The Chiropractor was a life saver for me. Think about it before you go the surgery route.